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My Weekend Planned…

The last time I shared my weekend plans I was naive enough to believe I couldn’t add much more to our already packed lives. Well, I was wrong. Since then, we’ve totally increased our workload, overwhelming so. Caught between looking for a break and understanding we’re on the horizon of great things to come. With that said, weekends like this are a welcomed opportunity to slow down and celebrate the ones I love. 


Friday

I’m so lucky to start off my Friday with preschoolers. My youngest daughter performed in her class play this morning. I couldn’t wait to see what sort of show 3 and 4 year olds could pull off. Eventhough I’m sick super duper sick I was excited to cheer on my little Cece. After that I’ll head to my new office (yay) to wrap up work for the week and prepare for my steelpan lessons later today. The early afternoon will be all about party planning for my daughter Sofia’s 13th birthday party on Saturday. Say a prayer that I can get everything done, I hate being sick when there’s so much to do. 😩


Saturday

I know we’ll be busy running around on Saturday morning. The only thing crazier than planning an event, is planning an event that you’re also performing at. And, crazier than that? Planning an event that you and your husband are both performing at, especially with three kids and a scarily long list of “to do’s”  to check off. Nonetheless, my daughter asked for her father to DJ and her mothers band to perform at her party so that’s exactly what she’ll get. I mean, the girl obviously recognizes talent when she sees it. 

Minor (just kidding) major detail…it’s also my husband David’s birthday (Awwhhh) so I’ll be planning some special surprises for him as well. 😏
Saturday night,  it’s party time! I’m looking forward to seeing my daughter celebrated. Her smile literally lights up the room. She is the kind of girl you want to give the world to, but she would never  ask for it. I can’t wait to celebrate her special birthday with family and friends. 

  


Sunday
Sunday morning we’ll get up and head to mass…although as I’m writing this it’s seems very unlikely so we’ll probably go to mass on Sunday evening. After a early afternoon birthday party for a school friend. We’ll continue the birthday celebrations. I have something special planned for my husband. Sunday evening it’s back to our normal routine. A few loads of laundry, pressing informs for the week and packing lunches. We learned a long time ago that even when we have special moments our responsibilities don’t go away. Continuing to commit to our responsibilities and doing what we’re supposed to do it what helps up to be successful and achieve so much. We all have 24 hours in a day. I do a lot in those hours and in turn, get a lot back.  



All in All

I’m really excited to celebrate David and Sofia. May 21st is such a special day for them and for me. Two people that not only changed my life, but defined it were born on this day. 

  
Sixteen years ago on May 21, I enjoyed a first date with an amazing guy. We laughed so much and talked to each other like we had known one another our whole lives. Although we had an amazing time, David didn’t mention it was his birthday until the end of our date. A unselfish move to not make the day all about him.  
Thirteen years ago on May 21st my first baby girl was born. In that moment something change in the universe. I have understood my purpose ever since. Sofia was a little girl that looked at you with years of knowledge in her eyes and so much joy in her smile. She is thoughtful and patient, loving and kind. She sees the best in everyone, even those who don’t always show their best. We are blessed to know her, honored to raise her and grateful to be in her presence. 

I have loved both David and Sofia from the first moment we met. But the love I have received back from both of them is indescribable. There are no words for our love and our bond. I didn’t know you could connect with someone so deeply until I met my husband. And I never knew you could love someone so much until Sofia was born. I am blessed to have a family to love and care for and I’m grateful to know the power of love. Happy Birthday to my dear husband and amazing daughter!

My Anniversary Weekend…Planned!

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This week, like most has been hectic. Meetings, proposals, 2HR delays, school closings, bitter cold, and the usual craziness of running a business and raising a family. The highlight? My daughter Stella receiving a scholarship for academic achievement for next school year. She’s only 7 years old, but we’re convinced this will the first of many. The weekend will be a little different than usual. This weekend, we’ll be celebrating our anniversary, we have some fun activities planned and are spending it without our girls.

Friday

This afternoon we’ll take the girls to spend the weekend with their nonnie and nonnuzzi. I purchased tickets for Startup Weekend Education. It may be surprising to some, but Startup Weekend has quickly become one of my favorite events since entering the tech scene, it was my first choice when deciding how we would spend our anniversary weekend. I’m excited to hear the pitches and see what ideas are chosen.

Saturday

This will be an entire day without my girls. The first time I’m not out of town, but home, without children. I know I’m going to miss them but I am looking forward to it. I have decided that I won’t be doing any work, no; proposals, reviewing resumes, cooking, cleaning, laundry, nothing of the sort. My husband and I will just relax. Something we never get to do. I’m taking this day to re-energize, gather my thoughts and plan out the next few months.

Saturday evening we’ll trade in our lounge wear for a suit and fancy dress and head down to the Hotel Monaco. It’s my first time, I’m a little late to the party. My husband was one of the contractors on the project so he’s seen the ins and outs and excited to give me a tour.

Sunday

This will not be the typical Sunday. No waking up at 6:00 am to clean and prep. Instead, I’ll be sleeping in…again! Church, then brunch to celebrate our actual anniversary. The big focus for the day after brunch will the nonprofit I started with my husband. We’re at a pivotal stage and have a list of tasks to accomplish. Sunday evening it’s back to Startup Weekend Ed. to see the final pitches. This is the best part. The conviction, team work and hard work that fills the room inspires me.

This weekend will be and feel much different than most. Sunday, February 22nd will mark our 12th wedding anniversary. We’re excited to celebrate our marriage and we’re proud we’ve made it this far. What makes us even more proud is the 15 years we’ve been together and the life we’ve built in that time. We’re a team, and I absolutely adore him.

Despite what some think (we sometimes get made fun of for this), we don’t always get along and we do argue, we just have a very strong bond and even stronger friendship. I used to wish that we had known each other from childhood. David would have definitely been my best friend.

We’ve been called, “too cute,” “lovebirds” and “all in all a great couple.” Such kind and humbling words. Those kind words mean so much to us. So much more that the person saying it could ever know. Our love needs encouragement, all love needs encouragement…and support. Marriage requires even more encouragement and support than we sometimes realize. I said before that I was proud of us for being together so long. It may sound strange, as though we’ve won some sort of award, but it’s true. I’m proud. Proud because marriage is difficult, really hard work, but I want and need my marriage to work. I love my husband and need him to be my husband.

Twelve years is a long time for anything. My mother asked the other day if this year would mark our twelfth anniversary, I responded, “Yes, didn’t you see the movie they made about us? It’s called, Twelve Years a Slave!” She didn’t laugh. I did! She really couldn’t believe it had already been 12 years since our wedding day.

Think about your life twelve years ago. How different were you? We were so different. So young. I was 23 years old. I knew a few things, not much, but I knew how to love. That was the easy part. After all, it’s so easy a child can do it. I never think about what I don’t know when it comes to love. It’s as natural as breathing. No one teaches you how to breathe, you just know. Think about any child you know and how they express love. My children, they hug me when I’m sad and stay by my side. They give me compliments, somehow knowing when I need one. They cheer me on and are my biggest fans. They surprise me with a beautiful drawing or painting specially made for me and they constantly say “I love you mommy.” The way they love is so similar to the way David and I love. Support, encouragement, unexpected kind gestures, loyalty, and constantly saying “I love you.” That’s what I need to feel loved, and that’s what I get. I’m a big believer that we should NOT follow the golden rule. Yes I said not.  I believe we should treat others how they wanted to be treated. Not how we want to be treated. The same with love and relationships. We should love others how they want to be loved. How they need to be loved. Not how we want to be loved or want to love them. That kind of love, giving the other what they need when they need it, that’s what’s lead us through the past 12 years.

I am overjoyed, 12 years, 3 kids, 2 non-profits, 1 business, lots of love and endless hopes and dreams. Blessed and grateful and excited for what happens in the next 12…as long as it doesn’t go by too fast.

Enjoy the weekend.