It’s Inauguration Day. I feel so incredibly sad today. More sad than I anticipated. This morning I hugged my daughters extra tight before they went to school and my husband came upstairs three times to give me extra hugs and kisses. I guess he knew I’d need it today.
Thinking back to last year. There are so many things that bewildered me throughout the election. I kept waiting for that thing to happen, you know that one thing that would finally make people say “no, that’s it, he cannot be president, we are better than this,” but that moment never happened. Instead, we elected someone who is mediocre, ignorant and delusional. Instead of elevating the standards, we accepted way less than we deserved. Maybe we had no choice.
America’s 45th President represents the type of American I have spent most of my life trying to avoid but being unable to; the ignorant, what about me, better than everyone else, step on you to get ahead, I should get just because, loud, ill mannered…etc. etc. etc.
What’s to Come?
I believe there will come a time when we will collectively expect more for ourselves and our country. Where we will seek great men and women to lead us and they will have the be the very best; decent and responsible with strong values, high intellect and compassion.
What Changes For Me?
Nothing. I have always worked hard. Maybe, I’ll be working a little harder. I give my time and money to causes that support children. I advocate for diversity and inclusion. I support entrepreneurs and small businesses owners, the people who work the hardest and have built our country. I support women and minorities and those who have to work harder to achieve. I am kind and confident and treat others well. I am surrounded by diverse people with varying backgrounds and learn from their knowledge and experiences. I give to those who ask and listen to those who need to be heard. I am a woman of strong faith which gives me the strength and power I need to overcome.
It’s Inauguration Day.
I am no more inspired to do good on this day than any other. Martin Luther King Jr. was is an inspiration. I’ve read his speeches and watched every biography. I am always and forever moved by his words and conviction. It’s difficult to see the world the way he did. I work, pray and hope for the dreams he had to come to pass. It’s daily work. Every day work. Not just once a year.
My dream for this day, and every day going forward is that we can get to the root of the issue and we are all honest with where we stand as a nation of people. I hope that all people will take an active role in obtaining the “dream”, recognizing the positive, infinite impact overcoming will have on our society. I pray that white Americans can look at their everyday interactions (or lack there of) with people of color and recognize their personal challenges with diversity. It’s not a grand idea, but recognizing how you speak to, empathize with, react to, and interact with people of color hugely impacts the change we all wish to see. I will work towards creating the world for my children that Martin Luther King Jr. saught for his own. Where they will only be judged by the content of their character.
I cannot have conversations with ignorant people about racism, diversity and injustice. Nor can I stand their ignorant comments all over my Facebook feed. Although I love a good debate, there are too many feelings and opinions involved and not enough facts. So, to make it easy, here are some things to consider that will help determine whether or not you should speak out, post on social media or take part in conversations public, private or on television.
Speak out if…
1. You are black and have a decent understanding of the facts.
2. You are not black but have a close relationship with black people.
3. You get your news from multiple sources not just your go to, biased source.
4. You are focused on improvement and change.
5. You recognize and admit there are huge issues around race and diversity in this country.
6. You are well versed in history, especially American history, especially black history. Not what was taught in school, but you have taken time to read, study and reflect.
7. You want to make real change and will actively participate in that change.
The history of black people in this country cannot be covered in a month and is not pretty or for the faint of heart. I study American history because I want to know and understand.
If you can’t check these boxes you’re not helping. If you’re not helping, you’re the problem.